Ten Things of Thankful, Week 11/2019

Ten Things of Thankful, Week 11/2019

So I proudly join the TToT-community again. Let’s see what I can contribute:

  • This week was quiet and peaceful, just what I needed. My energy levels got up, and I felt really good most of the time.
  • Because of this, I got more things done. Our fridge hasn’t been cleaned for months, but now it sparkles again.
  • We got a new dryer. It works wonderfully, and I got used to it immediately!
  • Our washer and dryer are in a utility room in the basement. This room was pure chaos. I am not finished, but after cleaning and rearranging for two hours, it looks so much better.
  • Cleaning the utility room helped me to realize how much better I am now, compared to the two years before. When I was really bad, we had to hire someone to clean our house once a week. Now I am mostly able to do this myself, and this makes me feel proud. I finally put away the things our cleaning lady used, and I hope they will stay there for good.
  • On Sunday, my husband and his brother went fishing early in the morning. I woke up later, realized I had really nothing to do, had a wonderful long breakfast and went out with our dogs. On this walk I noticed all the little signs spring is really coming. It was wonderful.
  • After they finished fishing, my husband and his brother came to our house. They were in a good mood, because they caught some trouts. We all sat in the living room and talked for two hours. It was very relaxing.
  • My parents left for a two week vacation to Andalusia (Spain). So far they are having a great time, and I am so happy for them.
  • Went to the dentist to have my teeth cleaned and checked. Everything is alright, and that’s a very good thing.
  • Bought some daffodils for our living room. They are so bright, they light up the whole room. Like tulips, they are a very welcome sign for spring.


Friendly Fill-Ins Week 148

Friendly Fill-Ins Week 148

I again participate in the Friendly Fill-Ins, hosted by Four-LeggedFurballs and 15andmeowing. So here we go:
1. I could live on potatoes! There are so many yummy possibilities to prepare them!
2. I rarely yell at other people, but when I do, be prepared for a thunderstorm.
3. I would most like to be known for the soft spot in my heart reserved for animals in need.

4. If you want love, you have to give it to others first.
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“Very commendable. Hopefully it will be fun too.”

“Very commendable. Hopefully it will be fun too.”


This is how a former fellow patient reacted when I told her that I not only try to stay on top of the daily chores, but that I made yoghurt and bread as well.

For a long time I pondered this, but I couldn’t put my finger on the reason why this made me think so much.

First, it’s not all about having fun. I try to deal with chores the same way I dealt with work – it’s part of my daily routine, if I like it or not. When it makes me feel good, this is the proverbial cherry on top. If I would ask myself very kindly every morning: “Viola, would you like to clean the kitchen?” the response often would be “Fuck off!”, and nothing would be done.

Second, I realized that this daily routine gives me a lot to hold on to. Every morning at half past eight my mobile reminds me of my agenda. And when nothing really bad happens, I stick to it. Period. And every evening I have the good feeling to have accomplished something.

My agenda has been changed several times, but now every Friday evening I can sit down and know that every room has been cleaned. On Saturday I take care of the laundry, and of course cooking and washing pans and pots has to be done on the weekend as well. But my daily structure loosely resembles a working day/after work and working week/weekend rhythm. This brings a feeling of normality, and it helps me a lot.

So, doing chores is not always fun, but this is not so important. Staying on top of the chores has become a valuable tool when it comes to battling my depression; and this surprised me a lot. But hey, I take what I get!



Ten Things of Thankful, Week 10/2019

Ten Things of Thankful, Week 10/2019


So I proudly join the TToT-community again. Let’s see what I can contribute:

  • After the stressful last weeks I was able to relax. This was what I really needed, and I am thankful I was able to do so.
  • Even though I needed to relax, I managed to keep up with the chores. I didn’t get lost in depression, and I consider this a big win.
  • Yesterday evening we had a power outage, due to storm. We enjoyed three hours without TV and light, sitting in warm and cozy candlelight (even the fish survived, because my husband had a battery operated pump ready).
  • On Saturday, we had the first ice cream of the year in our favourite ice cream parlour. It was delicious!
  • Our clothes dryer broke down. The good thing is, we can afford a new one. It will be delievered on Saturday, and I am looking forward to it.
  • I am getting the hang of making yoghurt. At the first try, three yoghurts were alright and creamy, and three were liquid. At the second try, all six turned out ok.
  • Bonus points: My husband wanted to make vanilla yoghurt that is not so sweet like that from the store. We tried and found a formula he likes. Yeah, success!
  • While watching the series “Reign”, that is set at the scottish court when Maria Stuart lived, I blurted out: “Is there any character in this show who didn’t kill, betray or lie?” We had a good laugh about this. Watching it is still so much fun!
  • I was finally able to get my new night guard. Self care is sometimes hard for me, because I care for everyone else. So I am glad I did this.
  • I bought tulips for the first time this year. They always have been a symbol of spring for me. Seeing them in our living room warms my heart and is a promise spring will come!


Friendly Fill-Ins Week 147

Friendly Fill-Ins Week 147

I again participate in the Friendly Fill-Ins, hosted by Four-LeggedFurballs and 15andmeowing. So here we go:
1. I am always trying to make every member of my pack happy.

2. I brake for everything and try not to run any living creature over. Because I would be very thankful when somebody braked for me if the situation was reversed.

3. I’d be lying if I said my life is easy. But it is the only life I have, so I try to make the best of it.

4. Always getting up one more time than you fall down wins the race.
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