My aunt called me yesterday. Actually it’s her husband, my uncle, I am related to. He is my mother’s half-brother.
My grandfather was an alcoholic, and my mother and my uncle suffered a lot. While my mother has an active social life and tries to help others in her job, my uncle drew back completely. His wife manages everything where other people are concerned, even relatives. Contact is limited to very special occasions.
My uncle is very ill. His heart is slowly giving out, there are lots of fluids in his body.
My aunt invited us to a garden party. It is possibly the last time I see my uncle alive. This hurts, as did the long times without contact to my uncle’s family.