The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention.
– Thich Nhat Hanh –
(Found this gem over at Therapy Bits)
To those who don’t know me: My hearing isn’t the best, I’m deaf on one ear and need a hearing aid for the other. This means, I have to pay special attention when I talk to you, in person or on the phone. My focus is completely on the person I am talking to. I do not only use my ears to understand the words, I also read lips, look you in the eye and watch your body language. This is exhausting, but I notice a lot. Often I come up with something like: “I feel this is really hard for you”, and people feel relieved and understood. And then they open up and tell things they wouldn’t have dared to say to someone who just accepted their “The usual stress at work” at face value. Of course, nobody can pay attention all the time. But try it! Next time you talk to somebody, let everything else fade in the background. Maybe you’ll be surprised. You will notice the cashier at your local supermarket is really tired today, so give her an extra encouraging smile and mean it when you wish her a good day. It could be exactly what she needs to pull through her exhausting shift. Paying attention to those around you makes them feel validated.
Attention is something that can’t be bought, it is a gift. And you can be sure this will come back to you!
Basically it’s all about making the world a better place by spreading positive thoughts. This is my contribution.